Ok...So most of you knwo my situation. Met girl online in wow...Met in person. Fell in love with girl. Girl moved from canada to georgia for me. Now the part you all may not know is that she was married at the time she visited me. Basically she cheated on her husband with me.....yes it was wrong..caught up in the wrong moment.. I regret ever doing that.
Moving along. I stopped school with less than a year and a half left..to move to north atlanta with her. Planning to start school back..just overwhelmed with all the responsibilites of having an apartment. 7 Months later she talked me into buying a house. Basically using my credit to get the house. Now because all of the events that have transpired my credit is GREAT..and i dont want to lose that. But now 6 months after having the house she has ended it. I violated her email because i felt i was getting lied to. Nothing gets under my skin worse than a liar...and a good one at that. So one story was she was going out with several friends...turns out she went to dinner with some guy and another couple...ok whatever ic an deal with them just being friends..but after reading emails exchanged between the two it was apparent that he wanted more than friends and sounded as if she might have been heading down the same road. She has a 3 yr old daughter that i adore... Anyways so i confronted her about all of this...she flipped and ended it, but picked itup later in hopes that we could work it out because she did move al this way down here.
Well....obvioiusly it didnt get better because im writing this. Couple months went by and i again felt something wasnt right. She said she was going out one saturday night with a girl from work....so i checked the mail again ( yes shame on me i know) and turns out she had plans with guy previously stated. I again confronted and we tried to move past it once more. She always stated she needed space, granted she travels a lot for her job and on top of 9 hours at the office, atlanta traffic and a 3 yr old thers not a lot of time left for me and her......it has taken its toll on us. So i went away for a weekend for the firsttime by myself, back in march...Came back and she had decided it would be best if we were just friends..whatever total bullshit. N E ways...she signed up for a site called plentyoffish.com was originally listed as Friends/Email and then changed to Dating. Yet she tells me shes not wanting to date. I told her i saw her profile and she was like well in canada dating is not considered being exclusive with someone its just going out with friends...right do i have fuck tard written on my head....So she has talked up a few of the guys im sure..and pretty sure shes geting serious with another one...most likely giving him the same lines she gaveme 2 years ago. Thatsok i see the error of my ways and know the road i need to go down..but there lies a bit of an obstacle....Throughout our dating one of her coworkers daugheters...who is now 18 babysat for us quite a bit... Firs things first...She's HOT....like holy shit omg who the hell is tha..hot. Moving on...My X's car died..sowe borrowed said babysitters jeep ( because she lives in alabama during the week and comes to atlanta to see her dad on weekends). Now for the past 2 months ive been miserable..actually longer than 2 months probably more like 7...but havent had that happy feelign in a very long while..its one reason i wentback to wow. Love wow not leaving... Anyways Friday the x and her mom were gone to savannah and the x called to tell me i needed to call the hot girl and setup a time to swap out vehicles. So i do so.. The girl rides horses ( watching a girl ride a horse doesnt put the best thoughts in ur head but i digress) so i met her at the stables and could tell she wanted to ride so i sat there watching for like 45 min to an hour talking and all...finally 8pm rolls around and she was going to take me back to to my house to drop me off. She asks if im hungry...basically i take her out to eat..pay for it all you know have just a great conversation with her....I felt Wonderful. Absolutley happy. So we planned to go to a movie afterwords. But she was thrown off the horse and trampled on earlier in the day and had a hoofprint on her ribs...so she ended up just going home..But she said saturday night we should do the movie thing...Well since this girl was the babysitter she would stay at our house on weekends sometimes.... So x invited her to stay not knowing her and i had plans...mmm see how it gets tricky now..So i tell the x hey me and her are goin toa movie as friends nothin more..and she flips..whateva. Well the girl shows up and i basically ahve to wear a bib because this girl has gone all out...like just looked amazing.... i was having a hard time focusing on anything but this beauty. Well x decides to ask new girl (after finishing flipping off) if she needed to go tothe hospital...and asks repeatedly. So girl complies and goes to have xrays done....So there went my night with her...and i know its cuz the x is mad..We also promised not to bring our dates to the house ...friends are ok, but if your exclusive with someone theyc ant come just to be respectful of the other.
I'm not dating her, but what im wondering is. This girl got all dolled up for our little movie thing. I get a long good with her...heres my delima...Would it be wrong for me to try and eventually head down the dating road with her? Considering its x's coworkers daughter? When i'm around her i feel alive and that theres more to life than having somoene belittle you and make you feel bad and dictate what you're going to do...Even though were seperated the x still does that.
So....am i right to assume that maybe the girl has somethin for me since she got so dressed up? And would it be wise to move in a different direction with her givin the circumstances? I have reached a point where i dont care wht the x thinks anymore and am going to live how i want to and do whatever i want to......but it could make home life a little harder until i can either a) sell the house or B) get my name off themortgage somehow...
So thats that...Its my RL drama and im sure it beats anyone elses...i'm 23 for christ sake i shouldnt be going through all this.
Okay, the first thing I want to point out is fairness. If she can go out with other people on a date, then it is fair that you can too. If she doesn't want you going out, then she shouldn't either. Whats good for the goose is good for the gander and vice versa.
Second, you have to decide if your relationship with the X is savable, if you are going to ever really Be able to trust her. None of us know her, so we can't help much there. If not, then I would say move on. It seems the 18 year old has an interest for sure (but what do I know? I am a guy too!).
If I were in that situation, based only on what you posted, I would do the following.
1) Date the 18 yr old
2) Sell the house
3) Get yer butt back in school!!!!! <<<-------A PRIORITY
The 3 year old will be your hardest part about ending that relationship. But don't string the child along in a relationship that may be doomed to end. As young as she is, she will bounce back a little easier than she will a few more years down the road.
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I have to say I agree with Balaso. Especially with getting rid of the house and even more especially with getting back in school. You really need to get away from the X - there's an obvious pattern developing there. Just be sure that when you do get rid of said X you are not left in financial difficulty and end up hurting your credit. It's not easy to fix that. At all. And finally, you HAVE to get to back to school. Sad to say, it's about the only way to get anywhere these days. The longer you put it off, the harder it will be to resume.
I agree with Bal too. After all, she is your X. So no obligations on your part. Liquidate the home and use the profits to complete your education. In the mean time, go pound that hot babe like no other and keep that smile on your face! ;) Good luck Cryp.
well the x told me yesterday that she and the girls dad are both uncomfortable with me and the girl doing anything...eventhough we just went out as friends...and x told me the girl is off limits....right now i'm being told who i can and can't go out with..so i'm calling the girl on thurs to get her take on all of this..and find out if its true if her dad is uncomf. with it.....
good lord what mess do i tend to get myself stuck in.
You need to rip the band aid off with this X. It will hurt like a bitch for a while, but will be over quickly. The longer you string out the connection, the harder it will be on the kid and you guys. Staying in the same house with an X just isn't healthy. If you own the house, either sell it or kick them out. That sounds cold hearted, but it's not your kid. If you co-own the house, sell it or make her buy you out. You may love the 3 year old, but if you leave now, she won't remember any of this.
Women like this bounce from one dude to the next. If they are lucky, they get knocked up so that they have another paycheck coming in from some guy. What sucks is that she affected your life, she made you move and drop out of school. But, as you said, you are 23 and young enough to get back on track.
...banging the hot 18 year old will help you heal, alot.
yeah I would do her just to piss off the x and then work on a relationship but then again i think to much with my cock and not my brains.
Quoteyeah I would do her just to piss off the x and then work on a relationship but then again i think to much with my cock and not my brains.
wow, you remembered where the forums are...wow
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